What to Do If You’re Feeling Homesick in College

Starting college in Rochester is exciting, but it can also feel overwhelming. Moving away from home for the first time often brings up emotions you might not expect. If you’ve been missing home, know that you’re not alone. Homesickness is one of the most common experiences for new students, and it doesn’t mean you’re not ready for this next chapter. It simply means you’re adjusting - and that takes time.

It can help to stay connected with family and friends back home, but try to keep it balanced. Regular check-ins - a weekly call or a quick text - can be comforting without keeping you too tied to what you’ve left behind. At the same time, give yourself permission to live life where you are now.

Making your new space feel familiar can also make a big difference. Photos, a favorite blanket, or little touches from home help create a sense of comfort. When your dorm or apartment reflects who you are, it’s easier to feel grounded.

Homesickness often eases as you build new connections on campus. Whether you’re attending the University of Rochester, RIT, St. John Fisher, or another local school, getting involved with clubs and events can help you feel more at home. Even something small—like saying yes to lunch with someone new - can open the door to friendships and a sense of belonging. Lean into the discomfort - I know it’s scary - but it’s usually not as bad as we think it might be in our heads.

Taking care of your body is another important piece of the puzzle. Sleep, regular meals, and movement can have a huge impact on your mood. Even a short walk across campus or listening to your favorite music can help you feel more balanced when emotions are running high.

Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Feeling homesick doesn’t mean you’re failing - it means you’re human. Adjustment is a process, and it’s okay to miss home while also learning to create a new one.

If homesickness feels overwhelming or starts to affect your daily life, reaching out for support can help. Many Rochester campuses offer counseling services, and there are also local therapists who understand what it’s like to go through this transition. You don’t have to figure it out on your own.

✨ If you’re a student in Rochester and you’re struggling with homesickness or the transition to college, Little Lantern Counseling is here to support you. Together, we can help you find tools, encouragement, and balance so you can thrive in this new season of life. Reach out today to get started.